Rubén García

Nov 29, 2022

4 keys to strengthening linguistic assertiveness

If you never heal from what hurt you, you'll bleed on people who didn't cut you. Tamara Kulish.

It's possible and desirable to express and defend your desires and needs, without oppressing those of others. That's what we call assertiveness. And it's a basic attitude to building healthy relationships away from dependence or tyranny.

Also regarding language, to avoid three situations:

  • The language of the interlocutor is to accept the choice, for the good of the majority, and because it is the strongest.

  • aggressiveness: I try to impose my choice of language by force (whether in the majority or in the minority).

  • I don't manage to make my choice respected, so I will use it whenever I can, and sometimes I won't.

If we don't act assertively, this is what's at stake

For apart from assertiveness, so many things will be damaged:

You will not be able to share Euskera (Basque language) with ease and pleasure, overcoming stress, comfort and obstacles. You will put all the care of Euskera upon yourself, avoiding the sweet sharing of it. Euskera won't be an instrument for organizing the coexistence of society.

The chances of inertia stirring up and encouraging creativity may also be lost.

4 keys to strengthening linguistic assertiveness

If you want to speak Basque assertively:

1️⃣ Prepare yourself physiologically, cognitively and communicatively to better manage your emotions, strengthen your consciousness and choices, and know what to answer spontaneously.

2️⃣ Click on certain prejudices: the interlocutors have the ability to express clearly what kind of communication they want or whether they can't understand Basque.

3️⃣ Be patient: it may be awkward and seem strange at first. If you stick to Basque as much as you can, you'll have nothing but good and sweet surprises. By repetition, the new behavior will become automatic for you before your realize about it. So keep going!

4️⃣ Learn to (better) interpret signals: Reflect on, when and why do I stop using the Basque language with my interlocutor?

  • at first glance, when I notice their appearance, and feel they're not Basque.

  • when I feel a sign that they didn't understand me.

  • when they speak Basque with difficulty.

  • when they say I can't speak Basque.

  • when they say I don't understand anything.

What if all but the last one were no longer an excuse to turn back to Spanish?

Another person will not hurt you without your cooperation; you are hurt the moment you believe yourself to be. Epictetus.

Rubén García

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