Developing an authentic and fulfilling life involves overcoming excessive niceness, which often stems from a fear of being unlovable.

This behaviour can hinder genuine self-expression and connection.

Here are 4 Key Strategies to break free:

1. Address Unlovability:

• Cultivate self-love by challenging the inner critic and affirming your worthiness.

• Practices like looking in the mirror and affirming "Life loves you" or writing compassionate letters to oneself can help shift this deep-seated belief.

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2. Develop Communication Skills:

• Practice expressing needs directly to build genuine connections.

• Start by identifying areas where you've avoided direct communication and practice expressing yourself more directly in small steps.

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3. Embrace Discomfort:

• The fear of conflict and discomfort is a hallmark of excessive niceness, leading to the suppression of one's true thoughts and feelings.

• Accept conflict as a growth opportunity and express opinions even if it causes tension.

• Engaging in practices that push you outside your comfort zone, both physically and emotionally, can strengthen your ability to handle challenging situations and emotions.

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4. Release Over-Responsibility:

• Recognize that others' emotions are their responsibility, not yours.

• Practice detaching from the need to fix or control others' feelings and allow them to experience their own emotions without taking it personally.

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Implementing these strategies requires courage and self-compassion, leading to a life aligned with your true values.

The strategies provided have been collated from the specialist knowledge of Dr Aziz from his YouTube channel “Get More Confidence”.

Knowledge I find to be very helpful with my own self confidence and finding my authentic voice in the world.