The highs and the lows offer lessons if we are willing to reflect and reframe.

I failed to join the Air Force because of medical history.

When I was 24, I fully committed to joining the Air Force. It was meant to be a source of growth, structure, and benefits that I felt I was lacking in life. If you don't have a purpose, the military will give you one.

I was searching for purpose.

I trained physically and studied for the ASVAB entry test. My numbers for the physical tests were in the higher tier, and I passed the ASVAB with flying colors. Then it came time for medical reviews - I was disqualified immediately because of persistent health issues.

I was devastated.

So I asked myself now what? I had completed a general associates degree in preparation for the officer track (and paid college). What happened next was a moment of opportunity from what I considered my misfortune. I was offered to join a friend in opening his own auto body shop - and I had the basic business knowledge to help him get started.

In return I learned the trade, and met my now fiancé.

Lesson:

For every misfortune there is opportunity if only we can reframe our minds well enough to look for it.

I graduated from University at age 28.

Fast forward a year and I realized the benefits of working as a contractor did not outweigh the costs. I had to move on to continue growing - and receive the benefits from regular employment. I started at a machine tool manufacturer as a night shift painter. The work was difficult and personally unfulfilling.

So I decided to go back to school.

I found a cohort program for working adults that fit my schedule from a major university. That the program was offered nearby was incredibly fortunate. Additionally, I had qualified for various aid packages making this opportunity one I couldn't miss.

I went all in, and graduated as one of the top in my class.

My classmates, professors, and their assignments set off a fire in me during the program. After graduation, I went on to land a corporate position at a different company. Life has improved dramatically since graduating.

Lesson:

When struggling to find your way, look for groups whose purpose is to elevate your thinking.