In my years of mentoring, I've discovered a fundamental truth that has transformed the way I guide others:

"You Can’t Want It More Than Them"

This simple truth has been a guiding principle in my mentorship journey. As mentors, we often pour our hearts and souls into our mentees, investing time, energy, and resources to help them succeed. We see their potential and desperately want them to achieve their goals. However, there is a fine line between supporting and enabling.

No matter how much we want success for our mentees, they must want it even more. They must be the driving force behind their growth. If we constantly push them or do the work for them, we are not truly helping them in the long run.

True growth comes from within. It is the result of an individual's desire, determination, and effort. As mentors, our role is guiding, supporting, and challenging our mentees, but we cannot do the work for them.

When we understand this crucial lesson, it transforms the way we approach mentorship. We shift our focus from trying to control outcomes to empowering our mentees to take ownership of their journey. We provide them with the tools and guidance they need, but ultimately, it is up to them to put in the work.

This lesson has taught me to be more patient, trust the process, and let go of my attachments to the outcomes of those who seek my counsel. It has also helped me create healthier boundaries and focus on being a supportive presence rather than an overbearing one.

The most successful relationships are those where both the mentor and the mentee are equally invested and where their drive matches our support. When we understand that we can't want it more than them, we free ourselves to be the best resource, empowering them to take charge of their own lives and achieve their most significant potential.

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