In 2020, I found myself being a caregiver for my father and my kids at the same time.

Fortunately for me, this was a temporary situation as my father healed from an accident. During those 5 months, I frequently felt pulled in many directions. Some find themselves caregiving for their parents and children for much longer periods of time.

It's important to find ways to make this process easier on yourself.

Tips to make caregiving more manageable

Step 1: Ensure you have legal documents in place

You may need paperwork to manage your parent's finances, make medical decisions, and communicate with doctors. In addition, a will and living will should be in place.

These documents make caregiving easier when you need to communicate and advocate on your parent's behalf.

Step 2: Get support wherever you can

Accept other family members cooking a meal or cleaning. Sign up for grocery delivery. If neighbors offer help with yard work or checking the mail, allow them.

Order other nongrocery household items to be delivered. If your parent qualifies for in-home care or meal delivery, this can save you time for other tasks.

Step 3: Include your children in the process

Children love to help out their grandparents. This helps them develop empathy and responsibility.

If there are tasks they can assist with or manage on their own, allow them to help.

Step 4: Find an easy way to keep others updated

Whether it's a group chat or email, you need a system to update others all at once. You won't have the time or energy for multiple phone calls and text messages.

Step 5: Forgive yourself for missing out on things

You can't do it all and you need time to care for yourself.

My family missed baseball games, tournaments, and birthday parties. While we felt some guilt over this, we felt it necessary to prioritize family during this time.

Shed the guilt and go easy on yourself.