I have been practicing mindfulness for over 30 years.

Along the way, I have done all sorts of things to try to get better:

• Read Present Moment, Wonderful Moment by Thich Nhat Hanh.

• Listened to Rev. Richard Rohr, OFM from the Center for Action and Contemplation.

• Went on an annual retreat of solitude and reflection every year.

• Kept a journal.

• Became a nun.

And all of these things helped me a ton.

But if I had to start all over again (as a beginner), this is the simple framework I wish I had for learning how to be mindful in everyday living:

Step 1: Keep an Open Mind and Heart

At the beginning of the day, set your mind and heart on the following:

• A receptive attitude to embrace the world of differences you will encounter.

• Awareness that you will not be in control of everything today.

• An internal commitment to slow down and listen to others.

Step 2: Practice Kindness

We have no idea about the burdens people carry in life.

Meaning gains momentum when you are aware and act upon your intention.

Reflect on who may need a word or gesture of kindness today, then do this selfless act of generosity. Remember, a gesture of grace leaves an impact.

Step 3: Show up as Fully as Possible

Living in the present moment sounds easy until your mind starts thinking ahead, remembering the past, worrying, or being distracted by your mobile device.

Here is a simple two-minute exercise to help you be ready for focused mindfulness:

• Set your mobile device to airplane mode, place it where you cannot see it or touch it, and pause.

• Take a few deep breaths, and imagine bringing your total self into the present moment on the inhaling of air.

• With each exhale, visualize releasing worry, future thoughts, the past, and the to-do list.

• The goal is to slow down the racing mind to the cadence of the present moment.

When you're first starting out, this is all that matters.