Dhwani Rao
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How I built the courage to ask for more
Dhwani Rao

As a freelancing emcee I have struggled with the fear of rejection and when I understood how this fear was holding me back from realizing my most ambitious dreams, I started practicing ways to desensitize myslef from the pain of rejection and develop a positive attitude towards it.

I once heard someone say "if you are not getting rejected at least once a day, you are not asking enough" and this changed my life. 

These lessons from Jia Jiang's Rejection Therapy have helped me build the courage to ask for more and become a better negotiator and communicator. 

  1. "No" is often used by someone as a protective measure when they don't have all the information needed to move forward. 

  2. We can often turn a "no" to a "yes" by asking "why?". Asking "why" gives the person an opportunity to share what about your ask is making them uncomfortable. Now its a joint-problem solving situation where you have an opportunity to address their concerns.

  3. Putting yourself in the other person's shoes and mentioning a doubt the other person may have before you make your ask could help gain you their trust and with that people are more likely to say "yes". 

  4. Persistence often turns a "No" into a "Yes".

  5. Rejection never defines you. Your reaction following rejection define you. Use it to fuel your determination to succeed. It can be a gift if you are open to learning from it.

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