As we progress through life we build and let go of relationships on a constant basis.  

These relationships can be related to Work, Romance, Family or Friendships to name just a few.  Each relationship we have will inevitably ebb and flow.  Some will stick and some will drift away, but it is the depth of connection that we form in these relationships that inevitably defines their impact on us.  

For instance, a break up with a romantic partner can spark grief in us that feels akin to losing a family member.  

Similarly, the loss of a job can shake us to our core and make us question our worthiness.  

If we were the initiator of the break up we will often feel guilt, while grief might be the dominant feeling if we were on the receiving end of a break up or lay off. 

But there is a healthier way to reframe these losses and choices in our lives.  Looking at any of our past relationships as a stepping stone to the next opportunity can help in the following ways:

1. In viewing the relationship as a stepping stone, we can appreciate and embrace the positive aspects and gifts that we received from it.  While it is healthy to acknowledge negatives in any relationship, we don’t need to demonize anyone, and it’s easier to let go of resentment over the investment we’ve made if we acknowledge that this relationship was temporary, but necessary for our growth

2. The stepping stone concept is not just available to us, and it can help us to reframe our own role in any separation.  It is there for our ex, our former colleagues and employers, our family members, or whoever it was that was affected or that we had to part with.  We are as much a stepping stone for them as they are for us.

Life is a long journey and holding onto any form of negativity does not serve us in the long term.  Finding paradigms like the “Stepping Stone” to reframe and draw out positives not only makes the journey more pleasant, but also helps create a framework of boundaries for healthier connection and relationships