In a post to you on 9/15/24, I shared the key to a truly loving and satisfying marriage. This is to love your spouse genuinely, generously, and unconditionally all the time. With this, it is to feel loveable yourself also.

Today I focus on the Lover aspect of marriage.

There are certain blocks, feelings really, which subtract from your love to your spouse, to some degree.

Fear. we sometimes are hesitant to express our love, because of fear of rejection, fear of disapproval, or fear of being ignored.

We must love anyway. Most of the time we will get it right. If our spouse does not appreciate our love attempt, it is probable that they are going through something which blocks their appreciation of us. Love involves letting go of fear to continue being loving. We just need to love genuinely, generously, and unconditionally.

Anger. It's not resolved yet, in our minds. With anger, there is often hurt. We still hurt. The answer is forgiveness. To forgive is high-level love. We are not waiting for an apology. We are not hoping that our spouse will admit their mistake. We already know that a mistake has been made, and it irked us.

We forgive so that the anger and hurt do not eat us up. We are not waiting to love. We want to do it right now!

Guilt. We realize our mistake, and we continue to feel badly about it. This makes us think that our love is of lesser value. We hold back on offering our love. It is subtracted from us and our spouse.

Guilt is a sign that we need to become a better Lover right now. We've done something that has harmed our spouse in some way. It is time to turn that around immediately. We learn from our mistake and are now determined to be a better Lover, starting in this moment.

Today we move from fear, anger-hurt, or guilt to being a genuine, generous, and unconditional lover. Our spouse will join us when they are ready.