We Human Beings, are social animals, and getting acceptance in society does make us feel good but does it make sense to make important decisions in our lives based on validation/acceptance?

I'm no expert on the topic but after introspecting a bit, I think I have some insights to share about this :

#1. Self Esteem

How you identify yourself plays a major role in this. If your self-esteem is low, you will seek validation from others.

On the contrary, people with high self-esteem tend not to care what other people think of them.

#2. Solitude

How much a person is comfortable living by himself is a defining factor in this decision.

If you are someone who cannot sit with yourself for 30 minutes a day, you might constantly try to do things for acceptance and validation.

#3. Priorities

Do you value freedom and peace of mind over cheering and clapping?

If so, it is less likely that you will fall into the trap of validation and you can do whatever you want.

On the other hand, if cheering and clapping motivate you, you are more likely to be a puppet of these things (harsh but true).

Closing Thoughts

In my opinion, these are the major differences between people who design their lives based on acceptance and people who give it less to no importance.

I would say trying to stay in between would be an ideal way for a person.

Neither of the extremes is helpful or practical and that has been my pursuit as well.

Until now I was against all this status, and validation but now I am trying to be a bit more practical in my approach.