Here's a statement that can change your life:

People do well if they can.

So often, we blame people for not doing well in life. We call them lazy, or unmotivated, or uncooperative. And then we punish them for not doing what we want them to do.

But no one wants to do poorly in life.

No one wants to feel like they suck.

Dr. Stuart Ablon, founder and director of Think: Kids at Massachusetts General Hospital, has found that when kids are having difficulties in school, it's not because they're not trying. It's usually because they are lacking in a specific skill - like emotional regulation, or problem solving. If you help them with this skill, their progress will suddenly skyrocket.

The same is true of adults.

It's not a lack of motivation that keeps them stuck.

Rather than blame them, judge them, or criticize them, consider becoming curious. Put yourself in their shoes and see if you can identify the roadblock that's keeping them from success. And then, work with them until they can push past it.

Collaborate with people who are struggling.

Awaken your curiosity and empathy.

People will do well when they can.