Merry Christmas.

We all know this is a time for giving. It feels great making others happy. But I think especially as adults we overlook ourselves at this time of year.

To be brutally honest I think we overlook ourselves throughout the year.

This isn't about being selfish. It's about taking a step back and gaining perspective. We are always our own worst critics but even when we recognise our own achievements we seldom celebrate ourselves.

At this time of year we are told to be generous and I think that should apply equally in how we treat ourselves. I don't think this is a zero sum game in that we can only give to others and not to us. This isn't about expectations from others but about us to us.

How often do you really give yourself a break? How often do you reward yourself? I think it's important. What will it do to you subconsciously for your self worth if you think others should receive more than you.

This isn't about presents. It's about everything from love to respect to time. Although why not treat yourself too.

We should treat others as we ought to be treated, right? But do we actually do that? Do we treat ourselves as we ought to be treated?

This time of year can be hard on people for many reasons but we can start I think by just giving ourselves a break and why not get that gift we wanted. It's OK to have fun. It's OK to enjoy ourselves. It's OK to make ourselves happy.

If we can't make ourselves happy how can we truly hope to make others happy?