1/6 A coaching client was talking about trust.

Or rather, "BEING TRUSTED".

And it now felt like it was the source of increasing anxiety.

They were building a story about it...

2/6 Their story went something like...

- 'being trusted' has worked so far

- I've been successful all the way

- I've succeeded with every project

- at some point I won't

- I've not had a failure before

- what happens when I fail?

TRUST <==> SUCCESS

3/6 It felt like what they were labeling as 'trust' was different from the picture I saw in my head.

So I blurted what my gut was telling me.

4/6 "Sounds like you equate TRUST with PERFECTION".

What's the difference between...

1/ trusting that someone will do it right and succeed

2/ trusting that someone will clean up any mess that they make...?

...or ask for help to clean it up?

5/6 The client stopped in their tracks.

TRUST === TO GET IT RIGHT

vs.

TRUST === TO CLEAN UP YOUR MESS

6/6 A simple question from a place of curiosity in the moment.

It had a profound impact on the client and created a powerful reframe.

They had their insight.

TL;DR;

1 - listen for distinctions

2 - blurt your intuition

3 - advocate your mental model

4 - inquire of the others' mental models

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