Kerry Garner Venter

Going through a big life transition — whether it’s planned or unexpected — forces us to:

• Question what really matters and how we’re living.

• Take stock of our routines, roles, and sense of self.

• Redefine our lives when things no longer feel the same.

Over the past 18 months, I’ve navigated family challenges, loss, and returning to work after caregiving — and I’ve realized there are universal phases we all go through.

👇 Here’s a breakdown of the phases and how to move through each one:

1️⃣ Disruption: A sudden change that shakes your sense of normalcy, triggering stress, shock, and a need to adjust. Allow yourself to feel the impact without rushing to make sense of it. Focus on small, grounding routines to restore stability.

2️⃣ Unraveling: Realizing that old roles and routines no longer fit, leaving you confused and questioning your identity. Rather than trying to go back, reflect on what parts of your old life still fit and what you’re ready to let go of.

3️⃣ The Void: A space where your old self is gone, but your new self hasn’t formed, creating emptiness and uncertainty. Instead of distracting yourself, take time to be still, listen inward, and consider what you truly need.

4️⃣ The Calling: A small but emerging sense of purpose or direction, driven by the desire to move beyond the past. Nurture this spark by exploring new ideas, talking to inspiring people, and aligning with your Soul State™.

5️⃣ Integration: Actively weaving the lessons from the transition into your life, creating growth and coherence. Stay present with your progress, build habits that match your new self, and celebrate small wins.

6️⃣ Embodiment: Fully living from your new sense of self, where the change is part of your story but no longer defines you. Stay connected to who you’ve become while staying open to future growth.

There’s no quick way through these phases. The more you know where you’re at, the better you can get the support you need.

👇 What’s one thing that’s helped you move through a tough transition?
♻️ Repost so someone who might need to hear this today can.

If you can’t measure it, you can’t manage it.

We accept this everywhere—except when it comes to ourselves.

But here’s the truth:
Whether you want to be loved, healthy, happy, or wealthy—
it all comes down to what you do, how consistently you do it, and why you do it.

And behind every action, word, thought, and feeling is one thing: energy.

Most people try to change their outcomes by forcing behavior.

But behavior is the last stop on the train.

Before you can create lasting change, you need to measure what actually drives your behavior.

What comes before action?

→ If you know how to do it (skills)
→ If you believe it’s possible (beliefs)
→ If it matters to you (values)
→ If it aligns with who you are (identity)
→ If it inspires you (Soul State™)

These are all forms of energy—and they can be measured.

Most people don’t even know this kind of energy can be measured.
But it can—and that’s exactly what Energy Intelligence™ is for.

It’s the process of measuring, decoding, and managing your energy—so you can lead, love, and live in alignment with how you’re actually built.

⚡️ Energy shapes your focus
⚡️ Energy fuels your motivation
⚡️ Energy drives your choices

When you understand how your energy works, you unlock a new level of clarity, consistency, and control—because you're no longer managing behavior at the surface. You're working with what actually drives it.

Energy Intelligence™ is about working at the level where outcomes start—not where they end.

It’s not mindset.
It’s not discipline.
It’s not identity.

It’s energy.
And once you learn how to manage that?
Everything else gets easier.

You’ve done the mindset work.
You’ve tried the habit stacks, the identity shifts, the productivity hacks.
You’re doing everything “right”.

But what if it's still not working?

It's time to stop following advice that might not be aligned with your unique energetic design and start learning what is.

That’s where Human Design comes in.

It’s not a personality test—it’s the science of differentiation.

It shows you how you’re built to decide, create, work, and lead—without the constant friction.

It helps you stop following strategies that were never meant for you—and start building success in a way that feels natural, energizing, and sustainable.

It helps you understand how to work with your energy, day to day, including:

• How you’re designed to make decisions—quickly, slowly, or with outside input

• Whether you’re meant to start things—or wait to respond

• If you thrive in steady routines—or in creative bursts

• What roles and environments bring out your best flow

And that’s just the beginning—Human Design maps over 1,000 individual data points unique to you.

It reveals all the ways you’ve been chasing someone else’s version of success. And gives you the power and freedom to follow your own.

Here’s the Truth:

You’re not lazy.
You’re not broken.
You’re just trying to work in a way that doesn’t match who you are.

When you understand how your energy works, success becomes easier. It feels less like pressure—and more like flow.

The most successful people aren’t the ones who force things.

They’re the ones who stop fighting themselves and follow what works for them.

And when you do that?
You don’t just leap forward.
You actually feel good doing it.

You’ve done the mindset work.
You’ve tried the habit stacks, the identity shifts, the productivity hacks.
You’re doing everything “right”.

But what if it's still not working?

It's time to stop following advice that might not be aligned with your unique energetic design and start learning what is.

That’s where Human Design comes in.

It’s not a personality test—it’s the science of differentiation.

It shows you how you’re built to decide, create, work, and lead—without the constant friction.

It helps you stop following strategies that were never meant for you—and start building success in a way that feels natural, energizing, and sustainable.

It helps you understand how to work with your energy, day to day, including:

• How you’re designed to make decisions—quickly, slowly, or with outside input

• Whether you’re meant to start things—or wait to respond

• If you thrive in steady routines—or in creative bursts

• What roles and environments bring out your best flow

And that’s just the beginning—Human Design maps over 1,000 individual data points unique to you.

It reveals all the ways you’ve been chasing someone else’s version of success. And gives you the power and freedom to follow your own.

Here’s the Truth:

You’re not lazy.
You’re not broken.
You’re just trying to work in a way that doesn’t match who you are.

When you understand how your energy works, success becomes easier. It feels less like pressure—and more like flow.

The most successful people aren’t the ones who force things.

They’re the ones who stop fighting themselves and follow what works for them.

And when you do that?
You don’t just leap forward.
You actually feel good doing it.

Birthdays aren’t just milestones—they’re resets.

In Human Design, a birthday marks your Solar Return, an energetic checkpoint where you’re called back to your core essence.

A reminder to realign, refine, and move forward with even more clarity.

✨ I’m here for mastery, not distractions.

My Master Trajectory means I’m designed to go deep, refine, and perfect what works.
Some people thrive on constant exploration.
I thrive on elevating what I already know works.
More depth, less chasing.

✨ Commitment is my superpower—but only when it’s to the right things.

With Gate 29 (Commitment) in my North Node, when I say yes, I go all in. But not everything deserves my energy.
Some people are meant to juggle lots of things at once.
I’m here to discern what’s truly aligned and double down on it.

✨ My energy moves in cycles, not in a straight line.

With my Channel of Rhythm, I’m not built for nonstop hustle.
Some people thrive on high-intensity bursts, others on strict routines.
I work best when I trust the natural timing of things.
Knowing when to push and when to pause makes success flow effortlessly.

✨ The right people change everything.

With Gate 59 (Deep Connection) in my design, I’m wired for depth. Surface-level networking? Not my thing.
The right people amplify my energy, my ideas, and my success.
The wrong ones drain it.
This year is all about building relationships that fuel me.

I always had a sense of what worked for me, but knowing it—seeing it mapped out so explicitly—has made alignment clearer, more accessible, and easier to apply in real time. Instead of questioning whether I’m on the right track, I have a framework that confirms, refines, and deepens my awareness.

Imagine knowing your Human Design.
It makes being in energetic alignment, simple.

There are no more excuses to keep forcing what’s not yours.
It's never been easier to lean into how you’re uniquely and energetically designed to thrive.

When people hear energy, they often think of something abstract or woo. But the way I teach it, energy becomes observable, tangible, and practical—and I use multiple frameworks to measure different aspects of it.

Here’s how 👇:

🧠 Whole Brain Thinking (WBT) – Measures Cognitive Energy
→ How you naturally think, process information, and make decisions (analytical vs. relational, structured vs. big-picture etc.).

🦋 Enneagram – Measures Motivational Energy
→ The core drivers behind why you do what you do, what energizes or drains you, and how you handle stress.

🌀 Human Design – Measures Energetic Blueprint
→ How you’re designed to exchange energy with others, make decisions, and align with your natural flow.

✨ Leverage Points of Change™ – Measures Where You Create Reality From
→ This proprietary framework maps how energy moves from possibility to reality, helping you pinpoint the path of least resistance.
→ If you’re trying to change at the wrong level—like forcing behavior when the real block is in identity or energy—you’ll keep hitting resistance.

✨ Energy Syncing™ is my overarching process that integrates all of these dimensions—helping you align your energies so you can lead, sell, and influence with ease.

Which aspect of energy are you most interested in measuring? 🤓

Part 2

In Part 1, I shared why most influence advice fails—it focuses on surface-level concepts instead of addressing the energy behind every interaction.

Every thought, word, and action is shaped by energy.

It’s the unseen force behind whether people lean in, tune out, or push back.

That’s why advice like "build trust" or "exude confidence" sounds good in theory but rarely teaches you how to actually do it.

Since my Near Death Experience, I’ve been on a mission to normalize working with energy—not as something mystical, but as something practical and measurable.

Because if there’s one thing I knew after coming back, it was this: there’s so much more than what meets the eye.

But if you can’t access and measure it, you can’t manage it.

So I sought out frameworks to quantify what others dismissed as “intangible”—so I could teach my clients how to access and use energy strategically, not just sense it.

That changed everything.

What I discovered is now the foundation of Energy Syncing™—a process that helps high performers:

✅ Read people instantly and adapt in real time.

✅ Make decisions without overthinking.

✅ Lead, sell, and communicate effortlessly.

Because when I started coaching, I didn’t have a title or years of executive experience to lean on—I had to rely on my ability to influence.

And despite still being younger than most of my clients—even now—what truly determines your influence isn’t age, experience, or authority. It’s knowing how to sync your energy with your audience’s.

🎶 Think of it like music:
Singing louder doesn’t create harmony—it just creates noise.
True harmony happens when you tune in, adjust, and sync with what’s already there.

The same is true for influence.
When you stop forcing and start aligning, resistance fades, buy-in happens naturally, and success follows effortlessly.

So if you’re waiting for a title or more experience to validate your influence—you’re missing the real key.

Mastering influence happens when you access the energetics.

People often think you need to have been there to help someone get there.

I’ve built my entire career proving that’s not true.

I was an Executive Coach before I had ever been an executive myself.

Which meant I didn’t have a title or past experience to lean on—I had to rely on my own ability to influence.

And yet, I built a sought-after coaching and consulting business, working with top leaders and their teams for over a decade—without a massive social media following, a complicated marketing strategy, or chasing visibility.

Because what I did was different.

For years, leaders turned to me when they were tired of advice that sounded good in theory but fell flat in execution.

They were done hearing:

❌ "Be more strategic." (But no one explains how to shift from tactical to strategic thinking.)
❌ "Just be confident." (As if confidence is something you can decide to have overnight.)
❌ "Have more executive presence." (But what does that actually look like in action?)
❌ "Communicate your vision better." (Even though they were already crystal clear.)

Because in reality, they were still struggling with:

🔹 People tuning them out or second-guessing their leadership.
🔹 Struggling to get buy-in from teams and decision-makers.
🔹 Feeling like they had to work twice as hard to be taken seriously.

They didn’t need more vague advice.

They needed to understand the energetics of their interactions—the invisible forces shaping whether people leaned in, tuned out, or bought in.

This is what creates effortless influence.

👉 In Part 2, I’ll share how I made influence measurable, tangible, and effortless using Energy Syncing™—so instead of trying harder to be heard, you can start making every interaction work in your favor.

Most people think burnout looks like collapsing in exhaustion.
But for high-achievers, it’s more subtle.

It looks like:
🔥 Still producing, but feeling numb inside.
🔥 Saying “yes” out of obligation, not excitement.
🔥 Craving more ease but feeling guilty when things are too easy.

You've been conditioned to associate struggle with value.
If it wasn’t hard-earned, you assume it’s not real success.

But what if the real metric wasn’t effort?
What if you measured success by how effortless things came into being?

This is what my work with energy alignment is actually all about.

Most people think that it sounds too 'woo' and so they disregard it's inherent value.

But energy informs every single thing we say and do.
There's no escaping it.
Only mastering it.

Which is why when you discover how you are uniquely and energetically designed to thrive, it takes you from being a high performer who's burning out, to one who's making an impact with ease and flow.

And that's when the real fun begins.

I wouldn’t call myself an expert in human behavior.

However, I’ve spent 17 years reading, studying, and applying frameworks like Whole Brain Thinking, Human Design, and the Enneagram to understand how people think, decide, and engage.

And I’ve probably spent thousands of hours practicing these principles—working with leaders, teams, and entrepreneurs to help them communicate, lead, and influence more effortlessly.

How I First Got Interested in Human Behavior and Influence

Early in my career as an Executive Coach, I noticed something strange.

Two clients could present the same vision and strategy to their team, but only one would get their team fully on board, engaged, and ready to take action.

Session after session, I found myself drilling into not just what they said, but how they said it—how they framed their message, built rapport, paced their audience’s energy, adapted their approach, and managed their own presence.

I was already obsessed with understanding human behavior to help my clients achieve bigger goals, but influence—being so intangible—pushed me to go deeper. I became even more driven to uncover the energy behind our words and actions and, more importantly, make it accessible.

Because at its core, influence is simply the ability to align human behavior with an idea, a vision, or a goal. The better you understand people, the easier it becomes to create real impact.

My Aim Over the Next 30 Days

✅ To demystify human behavior so you can understand why people do what they do.
✅ To teach high performers how to read people instantly and influence effortlessly.
✅ To help you feel more aligned and fulfilled in how you lead, sell, and communicate.

If this interests you, follow along—I’ll be sharing everything I know. 🚀

🚀 Why I’m Joining Ship 30 for 30 🚀

I recently signed up for Dickie Bush & Nicolas Cole's cohort-based course, Ship 30 for 30, because I’m ready to share my ideas more consistently—and challenge the way people think about leadership, sales, and influence.

Here’s why:

🔹 I want to demystify the energetics behind human behavior. Too many people think energy is some abstract, mystical concept—something you either "have" or don’t. But energy isn’t woo—it’s how people think, decide, and engage in every interaction. It’s the invisible force that determines whether people trust you, buy from you, or follow your lead.

🔹 I want to empower people who are here to make a big impact. You have the vision, the expertise, and the ability to create change—but if you can’t get buy-in, communicate effectively, or navigate human dynamics, your impact is limited. I want to help leaders, entrepreneurs, and coaches master Energy Syncing™ so they can inspire action, close deals, and create movements—not just ideas.

🔹 If you can’t measure it, you can’t manage it. Leadership, sales, and influence aren’t vague skills—they follow patterns. Through my proprietary process, Energy Syncing™, I use frameworks like: Whole Brain Thinking, Human Design, and the Enneagram to make energy practical, measurable, and accessible—so you can lead, sell, and influence effortlessly.

Over the next 30 days, I plan on writing about:

💡 How to read & adapt to people instantly so you can increase your influence.

💡 How to stop overthinking so you can make faster, more aligned decisions.

💡 How to make people say yes faster, so you can lead, sell, and succeed with ease.

Join me on this adventure—and pls tag anyone you think would also be interested!

At 10, I survived a near-death experience, and since then, three core topics have informed everything I do:

1. Consciousness & Energy Intelligence™

I came back knowing that everything is energy, but I wanted to understand how to apply that insight in a practical, structured way.

This led me to develop Energy Intelligence™—a framework for working with energy to create alignment, fulfillment, and success without burnout.

2. Reality Creation & The Leverage Points of Change™

I realized we are always creating our reality—either by default or by design.

But most people try to change at the wrong level—focusing on new habits, skills, or behaviors instead of what informs these things.

Through years of studying things like: Whole Brain Thinking, PNI, epigenetics, NLP, Human Design, and Ontology, I created The Leverage Points of Change™—a framework for shifting the highest-levels with the least resistance.

3. Systems Thinking & Energy Syncing™

Everything is interconnected—thoughts, energy, behaviors, and environments. Change doesn’t happen in isolation.

This led me to develop Energy Syncing™—a method for aligning personal energy with external systems to create effortless success.

It would be great to connect with others who are interested in these topics—so pls follow and share and feel free to reach out!