Are you the coach you've been looking for?

I've researched coaching since 2019 for my work in innovation at a large workforce development nonprofit. Through that research, I've formed a framework around a self-directed coaching community. It's a multi-layered approach: self > duo (1:1) > peer/group > cohort > community.

Recently, I discovered Commcoterie's approach to self-coaching.

Self-coaching unlocks self-awareness and achievement

Why might you consider self-coaching?

• Professional coaching is expensive.

• You need realtime support.

• You haven't personally connected with a coach.

As you explore Commcoterie's self-coaching steps, use freewriting to capture the insights.

Step 1: Approach your self-coaching session with mindfulness

The word "coaching" can put people in a performative space.

Instead, you want to be calm and present, open and honest, and not be worried about what you "should" do.

Step 2: Create psychological distance

When you're coaching yourself, you're inherently too close to the problem.

Create psychological distance by imagining that you're coaching a different person or a different person is coaching you, setting up a new space, or speaking to yourself in the second or third person.

Step 3: Gain self-awareness by using a framework of questions

Good questions are the foundation of any coaching. Commcoterie's founder, Caitlin Harper, recommends running them through this framework:

What did you want to talk about today (what’s the subject)?

Is there anything else (what’s the real/deeper subject)?

What seems to be the real problem/barrier? What do you want to focus on?

In an ideal world, what is the solution? What does success look like?

What’s an action you can take to get there?

Step 4: Set goals for where you want to be

As you take action, set goals that are SMART(ER):

• Specific

• Measurable

• Achievable

• Relevant

• Time-bound

• Excellent! (celebrate the success)

• Reward (positive reinforcement)

In what areas of your life might you apply self-coaching?