Asking somebody why they do something is rude. Your friend and you are having coffee, talking about life and he shares with you that he wants to move to Thailand for a while and travel around Asia.

You ask “Why?” The question here implies that you do not understand his stance and he has to give you a valid reason why he's moving away. You will then asses his answer and accept it as valid or not. This is fucked up.

Wanting to do it is the “why”. Because I want to should be the answer. It is fine not to understand the motives of other people’s choices in life. Justifying why you want to do something is beyond the reach of the person asking.

You want to understand their motives and their decisions, but this is overreaching. You make the other person think about creating an answer suitable for you, for you to give them the validation you denied them when they opened up.

Do not ask other people why they do what they do, better ask yourself why you do what you do, it will take you farther.

Karam Zarkitou