Being in control in your life can have different meanings for each one of us. If you are a freak of control like I used to be and sometimes still am, you realise that the more you chase control the more it eludes you.

Giving up control does not mean not to make decisions or give up on life, but rather on focusing on the things that really are in your control.

Differentiate the things that are in our hands from the ones that are not is giving up control while taking the control you can. That feeling is freeing and liberating.

You know exactly what to expect from yourself, and anything outside that does not deserve any thought.

For example, you cannot control if you are getting a job interview, but what is in your control is to have the best cv and write the best application you can. After taking control of what's in your hands, you give up in trying to predict an outcome or have an expectation on something that you can't control.

It is powerful and liberating to know how limited the impact of your actions is, and how much you can impact those will always leave you with a sweet mouth because you know that what was in your control was the best you could do.

Sometimes the best you can do it's not what it's required but you can always strive to improve.

The biggest improvement is to realise that what you can control is the only thing you should care about.

Karam Zarkitou