Tony Roper I write about coaching for corporate career changers looking to leave the grind behind. | 30+ Years in Tech | 2+ Years Coaching | Certified Coach
Everyone struggles with drama in their lives
Personally,going through the 'covid period' it seemed every week there was new drama.
Being cooped up indoors was killing my soul as I thrive on social contact.
I lost my role in Aviation because planes literally weren't flying for months. Borders were closed and my Wife wasn't able to fly back to Australia to see family members and worse didn't know when she could. Some days were easier than others but those others....oh boy oh boy.
But what changed for me was beginning a Coaching practice which helped me help others identify their own drama. Instead of them being lost within it, from identification on its own, a kind of magic happens.
Let's take a look at a Coaching tool called
The Attention Ladder
! Vision !
____________
! Strategy !
____________
! Tactics !
____________
! Problems !
___________
! Drama !
Many clients came to me and were immersed in ''Drama' talking about what's affecting them and what's happening in a jumbled blur of words, feelings. thoughts and actions.
If no one helps them to understand they are stuck there then they can spend a LOT of time there on their own.
Some sessions I felt they just wanted to vent and talk it all out - I had to resist the urge to step in and try and focus them. But it's their session and eventually once they felt they had been heard we could step back, together, and objectively look at where thier attention was.
I gained permission to share the tool and people instinctively understood which step their attention was at. And where they wanted to be.
This helped focus the session, focus what they wanted to gain from the session and helped them to focus forwards. Into a brighter future. Focusing attention on a vision taking them away from the drama and giving them something to build towards.
Coaching is a partnership and I found a strong link between helping others face thier issues and finding personal insights into how to find mine.
I trained myself to be self aware where I was focused myself and realize when I am stuck on the Drama rung of the ladder myself. It's all about where you focus your attention.