I help leaders build systems and habits to get things done. I write about individual productivity, operational effectiveness, and spiritual formation.
People light up when you ask them for advice.
We may not like it when others give us advice, especially if we didn't ask for it. Yet we love it when people ask us for advice. So if you want to brighten someone's day and build a stronger connection with them, ask them for advice.
Here's what asking for advice does:
1) Tells them that you value them
When you ask someone for advice, it signals that you want to hear what they have to say and that you're willing to take the time to listen.
2) Tells them that they have expertise
When you ask someone for advice, it sends them a signal that they have knowledge, skill, or wisdom that others want. It boosts their confidence and encourages them to share more.
So the next time you want to encourage someone, ask them for advice on something that's important to you!