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2y ago

5 Things I Wish I Knew Earlier: On Finding Your Life's Goal, Idea Capture Systems, and Entrepreneur Characteristics

5 Things I Wish I Knew Earlier: On Finding Your Life's Goal, Idea Capture Systems, and Entrepreneur Characteristics

Happy Things I Wish I Knew Earlier Sunday!

Here are 5 ideas I found for your consideration this week.


1. Your goal in life is to find the people, business, project, or art that needs you most.

From the Almanack of Naval Ravikant: a Guide to Wealth and Happiness by Eric Jorgenson.

Naval is one of the deepest thinkers in Silicon Valley, and this book is a compilation of the wisdom he has spread through the years.

This applies broadly, but is particularly applicable in the pursuit of wealth. The most money you can make is downstream from serving the people that need you most.

You can download the PDF for free ​here​.


2. Write a Newsletter Sharing What You Learn

I have been interested in building an audience online for years.

It took until this very week for me to learn how to do it without hardly any additional effort: write a newsletter sharing what you learn.

Seth Godin talks about creating art and giving it away for free. Generosity is the heart of the creator economy.

If you are a self-improver into personal growth always learning and growing, then synthesize what you learn into a newsletter sharing what you learn.

That's the whole idea behind this very newsletter.


3. Education is the foundation of the creator economy…helping others learn and improve

From an conversation between two of my favorite online entrepreneurs: Dan Koe and Dickie Bush

The way people learn is transforming at an insane rate.

Creators are the teachers of the present, and especially the future.

And it has never been more lucrative to be a teacher.

Educate yourself around solving your own problems, then help others solve those problems, and get paid for it.

Checkout the full interview on YouTube ​here​.

The best resource for building a business around this process is Dan Koe's One Person Business Model YouTube playlist, which you can find ​here​.


4. Create an Idea Capture System

An idea capture system is a technological net used to catch and organize ideas, and it pains me to ponder what my life would be like if I had been using one for the past 12 years.

I built mine this week in a software called Scrivener.

I have folders for notes on books, podcasts, and educational videos.

This system is the secret behind this newsletter.

Highly recommend you create one as well.


5. Entrepreneurs are Obsessed, Optimistic, and Generous

I’ve heard some grumbling about the new Wonka movie, but I thought it was one of the most inspirational films I’ve seen in the theaters in a long time.

Maybe these people are part of a different generation than me.

But the Gene Wilder version was a HUGE part of my childhood.

It made me believe that I could do anything, that imagination is the most powerful force in the universe.

I thought this was the perfect biopic of Wonka’s childhood.

I think of Wonka as the archetypal entrepreneur, and he is Obsessed, Optimistic, and Generous.

To learn how, checkout the blog post I wrote on ​here​.


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2y ago

6 Insights on the Creator Economy from Dan Koe & Dickie Bush

I’m fascinated with learning how to build businesses online, and Dan Koe and Dickie Bush are two of my favorite people to learn from. 

I spent the last couple of days listening to a 3+ hour conversation they had last year. 

These are the 6 insights I found: 

1. Education is the foundation of the creator economy…helping others learn and improve 

The way people learn is transforming at an insane rate. 

The old education model is broken. Creators are increasingly the teachers of the present, and the future. 

And it has never been more lucrative to be a teacher. 

Educate yourself around solving your own problems, then help others solve those problems, and get paid for it. 

2. When you put your ideas into the world, you are establishing mindshare with the people who consume them

When those people use your ideas to build their own worldview and create their own ideas, then your mindshare with them and with others compounds. 

This is why online, creator businesses grow at exponential rates.

(Think James Clear’s concept of atomic habits)

3. Gotta strike a balance between building equity with your audience and extracting the equity

Give value, give value, give value…offer a product or service to extract value (and hopefully provide more value). Then get back to giving value. 

Gary Vee called this Jab, Jab, Jab, Hook. 

4. You can only focus on and pursue three things at a time

When you are considering a thing or someone presents you with an offer, ask yourself what you’re willing to give up to say yes.

Getting clarity on what those things are is the first step. 

Saying no to everything else is the next step. 

5. Be willing to experiment & iterate

Your first attempts will suck.

That’s okay, because very few people are even paying attention. 

Iterate, iterate, iterate. 

Adapt your approach based on data. 

6. Build community

Find your people, serve them, connect them to each other. 

Watch their full conversation here:

https://youtu.be/V4TXnvrhuZw?si=IB0ZOLIlWtL8oM2o


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2y ago

3 Insights on Entrepreneurship from the New Wonka Movie

I’ve heard some grumbling about the new Wonka movie, but I thought it was one of the most inspirational films I’ve seen in the theaters in a long time.

Maybe these people are part of a different generation than me. 

But the Gene Wilder version was a HUGE part of my childhood.

It made me believe that I could do anything, that imagination is the most powerful force in the universe.

I thought this was the perfect biopic of Wonka’s childhood.

Timothée Chalamet absolutely NAILED every part of it. He was the perfect young Wonka. 

So if you have been reluctant to watch because of whispers you’ve heard, and you were a fan of the Gene Wilder Wonka, please do yourself a favor a go see it in the theaters. 


I legit had tears in my eyes at the end.

And you might even learn something. 

I think of Wonka as the archetypal entrepreneur in these 3 ways: 

  1. OBSESSION

He is OBSESSED with everything about chocolate. He travels far and wide to learn everything about it from every resource he can find.

All he wants to do with his business is create the most incredible chocolate treats possible, so he can share them with the world.

And thereby bring joy to the people who eat it to make the world a little bit better.

  1. Insane, unyielding OPTIMISM

He starts his journey with next to no money, and uses every dime to try to bring his creations to life.

He experiences setback after setback and never once considers the prospect that it won't work out.

Every barrier is just something else to figure out, something that must be worked around to achieve his goal.

  1. GENEROSITY

From the start of the movie to the end, every step he takes is motivated by a spirit of generosity.

In the opening scene, when he has basically no money, he generously gives it away to help people, always presuming that he will make plenty more later.

I truly could not recommend the movie any more, especially to aspiring entrepreneurs who want to change the world.

Take the time to go soak up inspiration and experience pure joy.

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2y ago

Mastering the Art of Wealth-Building: 10 Lessons from the Almanack of Naval Ravikant

Naval Ravikant is one of the deepest thinkers on the art of wealth building in Silicon Valley.

I spent last week devouring his Almanack.

The 10 biggest learnings I took away (30-second read):

1. Following your genuine intellectual curiosity is a better foundation for a career than chasing what is lucrative now. If it entertains you now but bores you one day, keep looking.

I have learned this one first-hand. When you choose to do something for the money that you aren't deeply interested in, others who have that genuine curiosity will out perform you every time.

2. Business networking is a complete waste of time. If you are working on projects that are interesting, then people will come to you to work with you. 

3. Your goal in life is to find the people, business, project, or art that needs you most.

This applies broadly, but is particularly applicable in the pursuit of wealth. The most money you can make is downstream from serving the people that need you most.

4. If your curiosity leads you to a place where society eventually wants to go, you’ll get paid extremely well. 

The best evidence for this is probably Joe Rogan. He talks to people who interest him for long periods of time. Years later, society came to value people who talk to other people they are interested in for long periods of time.

Naval put this a different way when he said, "You will get rich by giving society what it wants but does not yet know how to get. At scale."

5. Fortunes require leverage. Business leverage comes from capital, people, and products with no marginal costs for replication (Code and media).

For the first time in history, you can create digital products that cost almost nothing to make and cost nothing to replicate. This is the secret to building wealth in the modern world.

6. Code and media are permission-less leverage. They’re the leverage behind the newly rich.

You can create software and media that works for you while you sleep. If you can’t code, write books and blogs, record videos and podcasts.

7. Productize yourself

Become the best in the world at what you do. Keep redefining what you do until this is true.

No one can compete with you on being you. Most of life is a search for who and what needs you most.

8. If you can’t decide, the answer is no.

Because we have an infinite number of options. If it’s not an unequivocal yes, then it’s a no. 

9. The best jobs are neither decreed nor degreed.

They are creative expressions of continuous learners in free markets. 

10. Set an hourly rate for yourself, then say no or delegate everything that comes your way that will produce a lower hourly rate than that.

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2y ago

5 Secrets I Wish I Would Have Known When I Got My Real Estate License
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Getting my real estate licensed changed my life. 

I always say real estate is the best industry for entrepreneurs without a great business idea. 

These are the 5 secrets I wished I would have known when I started as an agent:

Secret 1: It Is Far Harder To Establish A Business Than You Think

It took me six months to make my first $1500 working 6-7 days per week and 10+ hours per day.

But I made $80,000 in the following six months. You start with zero experience, zero industry knowledge, and zero momentum. Generating momentum takes a shit load of activity.

After my first year, I had a business that would pay my bills forever.

Secret 2: The Possibilities In The Industry Are Much Greater Than You Think

There is a reason why 90%+ of all millionaires made most of their money in real estate.

If you use it, your real estate license is your entry point into the broader real estate world. And the real estate industry is your entry point into the broader business world. I have friends who are tracking to be literal billionaires.

They got their start as agents twenty years ago.

Secret 3: You Are Selling Yourself, Not The Properties

The specific property doesn't matter at all.

What matters is how you make people feel. Do they feel they can trust you? Do they feel you can guide them through complex transactions?

Great agents are masters at selling themselves.

Secret 4: You Are An Entrepreneur, Not An Employee

I HATE when I see brokerages advertising how they are "hiring."

You are an entrepreneur. When you select a brokerage, you are choosing to build your business with them. They cannot hire you just like they can't fire you.

Your brokerage needs you more than you need it.

Secret 5: Real Estate Is The Perfect School For Entrepreneurship

As an agent, you are working every day in the market evaluating and negotiating deals.

You are generating leads, moving them through sales pipelines, and closing transactions. That is entrepreneurship.

Everything you learn as an agent translates into every other venture you choose to pursue in the future.

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📓Art and Practice of Journaling

2y ago

Did You Know Marcus Aurelius Never Intended for Meditations to Be Made Available to the Masses? This is Why He Wrote It

Did You Know Marcus Aurelius Never Intended for Meditations to Be Made Available to the Masses? This is Why He Wrote It

Did you know Marcus Aurelius never intended for Meditations (the most famous book on stoicism in history) to be made available to the masses? 

He was writing to himself for himself with the simple objectives of figuring stuff out, thinking things through, and understanding how he should appropriately behave. 

To understand himself, the world, and his place in it. 

At his death, he had no idea his journals would go on to inspire millions to lead their best possible life. 

He was just focused on living in the best way he could, which was no simple matter for the Emperor of Rome.

That is what the practice of journaling-or, writing for yourself to yourself-is all about. 

Writing is the most foundational personal growth  practice. 

Joan Didion put it this way: 

“I write entirely to find out what I’m thinking, what I’m looking at, what I see and what it means. What I want and what I fear.”

Write to understand yourself, to understand the world, and to understand your place in it, just like Marcus Aurelius. 

Who knows, maybe millions will one day read what you write and live better lives as a result. 

If you're interested in learning more about how to use writing for personal growth, then you might want to checkout my upcoming book The Art and Practice of Journaling: an Introduction to the Timeless Personal Growth Tool.

It will be available for pre-sale soon. To get updates on that in addition to the most potent personal growth ideas on the interwebs, sign up for my Purpose OS Newsletter here.

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2y ago

I Read 43 books in 2023. These 9 Books Made the Biggest Positive Impact On My Life

I Read 43 books in 2023. These 9 Books Made the Biggest Positive Impact On My Life

1. Expert Secrets- Russell Brunson

This one opened my mind to the gigantic business opportunity available to us all in the online/digital marketing space.

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2. A Brief History of Everything- Ken Wilber

This book lives up to the big title. Ken introduces the idea of "holons" as the fundamental building block of the universe. Completely changed my perspective on the universe and our place in it.

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3. The Way of the Superior Man- David Deida

Many parts of this book really challenged me and even made me uncomfortable. But it transformed how I look at my relationship with my wife. Highly recommend.

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4. Perennial Seller- Ryan Holiday

Found this by accident on Goodreads.

One of Ryan's books that came before the Stoic movement. As an aspiring author, it hit on all the primary points for what it takes to write a book that stands the test of time.

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5. The Experience of God- David Bentley Hart

An extensive look at the classical idea of God. A tremendous work of philosophy. The greatest defense of God I've ever found. A destruction of the atheistic paradigm.

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6. A Religion of One's Own-Thomas Moore

Former monk turned psychoanalyst, Moore rejected institutional religion but understood that we are fundamentally religious creators. This is a manual for how to construct your own personal religion.

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7. The Starfish and the Spider- Ori Brafman

A look at the power of decentralized organization. Gave me great hope for a future with far less corruption.

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8. Ogilvy on Advertising- David Ogilvy

The greatest copywriter of all time shares everything he learned about the art of selling with the written word.

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9. A Million Miles in a Thousand Years- Donald Miller

Lessons on how to live your life like you are the hero of your own story (which you are). Learned about storytelling and came away inspired to take on big, audacious projects to see what happens.

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📓Art and Practice of Journaling

2y ago

This Secret Tool for Personal Growth Helped Me Escape My 9-5

This Secret Tool for Personal Growth Helped Me Escape My 9-5

“I never want to feel this way again”

The year is 2011.

I'm working as a tire lube express technician at Walmart, commanding an hourly wage of $7.15.

And I've just been dressed down by my department supervisor, a man in his middle forties earning only a few dollars more per hour than me.

This was one of the low-points in my life.

I felt trapped in a job that I loathed. A job that barely paid enough for food.

I didn't respect anyone around me, especially the people above me in the chain of management.

I knew I had more to offer the world. Trading my time for money, and a minuscule amount at that, couldn't be all I had to look forward to in the future.

On that day, I made a singular decision that set my life on a different trajectory.

I decided to take my future into my own hands.

I decided I would not become a victim of my circumstances.

I decided that my current predicament was temporary, that I would do anything to escape that trap.

After my scolding, I walked out of my boss's office and made straight for the school supplies section of the store.

I purchased a small, black notebook and took my fifteen-minute break.

I sat alone in the break room and made a couple of lists.

The first was a list of all the reasons I hated that job.

The second was a list of all the reasons I was trapped there.

The result of this simple exercise was staggering.

All at once, I realized that the situation was completely in my control.

I CHOSE to apply for that job.

And the singular factor that trapped me there was ME.

I didn't have the skills to command a better job or higher wages.

It was a developmental issue. Just because I didn't yet have the right skills didn't mean I couldn't develop them.

I quickly came to understand that developing the right skills was the real work I had to do.

The work wasn't punching a clock. That was just what I had to do at that time to survive.

This was my first glimpse at the transformative power of writing out my personal problems and their potential solutions.

In other words, this is when I began to learn a secret that high-performers have known for centuries: the habit of keeping a personal journal is the most fundamental tool for personal growth.

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📓Art and Practice of Journaling

2y ago

Your Journal is a Time Capsule

Your Journal is a Time Capsule

If I have any regret in my life, it is that I didn’t start journaling sooner. 

Any Harry Potter fans out there?

The scene where Dumbledore shows Harry his pensieve is burned into my mind. Harry comes in on Dumbledore using the tool to learn that this is where Dumbledore stores all his memories.

That is the perfect image for how to use your journal. 

The time from when I began journaling to today is well lit in my memory.

If I ever wonder what was going on at a specific day and time, the journal entry transports me that place, time, and mental space.

It’s like looking into the glass of memories in Dumbledore’s office.

The act of writing each entry is the equivalent of extracting a memory and depositing it into the glass. 

But the entirety of life before my first entry is shrouded in darkness.

Sure, I remember many things, but I wonder how accurate the memory is.

My entire developmental period—first love, getting my driver’s license, struggling with understanding God, my thought process behind leaving early tyrannies—is all lost in the sands of time.

My only regret, if I have one, is that I don’t have those times documented.

•Do you remember how you felt the night of your senior prom?

•Do you remember what was going through your mind the day you met the person who would become your spouse?

•Can you recall what it was like to lose your virginity?

How often do you reminisce with people only to have them give a different perspective on what happened? The further away from experiences, the more disparate perspectives become.

For most people, the further away from an experience, the blurrier and less accessible the memory of that experience.

But not for journalers. I can turn to entries of my most formative experiences, and it takes me right back to where I was, and who I was, at that time. 

There is incredible power in this time capsule function.

It illuminates your past in a way that nothing else can. Don’t take this clarity away from your future self. 

And don’t take it from your children!

Imagine allowing your children and grandchildren the luxury of an insider’s view on your life experiences.

Imagine allowing them to see your fears, your vulnerabilities, your hopes, your dreams.

Imagine allowing them to see the story that created their own story.

In my view, there can be no greater gift. 

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2y ago

8 Lessons for Turning Your Life into an Epic Movie

Donald Miller is one of the global experts on the power of story telling.

His book A Million Miles in a Thousand Years is about how to turn your life into an epic movie.

Here are the top 8 lessons I learned from reading it:

1. A story is a character who wants something and overcomes conflict to get it.

To live an epic movie, you have to figure out what you want, what the obstacles are to getting it, and how to overcome them.

2. A character is what they do

Stories are made of roles. You fill many different roles over the course of your life.

To become the hero of your own story, identify the set of roles you want to fill, and go find them.

3. The point of a story is the character arc, which is how they change over the duration of the story

Character transformation is the whole point! It doesn't matter where you start or where you end.

All that matters is how you change as a result of the journey.

4. The character of the character matters…save the cat early

No one roots for bad guys. They can, and do, root for flawed characters.

But the character has to do something generous and kind early in the story for the audience to care about their story.

Like save the cat.

5. Characters need an inciting incident that forces the character toward the obstacles.

They won’t just go because they need to.

An inciting incident is a doorway through which the protagonist walks and cannot turn back.

A one way door.

6. A story is made up of turns.

Positive turns move the protagonist toward the goal.

Negative turns move the protagonist away from the goal.

You need both in a great story.

7. The pain that the characters go through binds the group

Think Lord of the Rings, Harry Potter, and Game of Thrones.

Characters go through hard times, which builds bonds of trust and camaraderie.

8. “part of me wonders if our stories aren’t being stolen by the easy life.”

If your life doesn't feel like an epic movie, your story might be getting stolen by the easy life.

Get off the couch. Choose a big goal. And go experience your turns.

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📓Art and Practice of Journaling

2y ago

The Goal of Journaling is to Tell Yourself the Truth
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"I write entirely to find out what I'm thinking, what I'm looking at, what I see and what it means. What I want and what I fear." -Joan Didion

The primary goal of the habit of journaling is to tell yourself the truth.

That might sound trivial, but we lie to ourselves all the time. Voices bubble up from our unconscious mind saying all kinds of wonderful and terrible things. And they are not bound by truth.

The challenge is to sift nuggets of truth from the stream of thoughts.

Most of your psyche is unconscious. The conscious mind sits atop a vast unconscious like the seen part of an iceberg that protrudes up out of the sea.

And the contents of your unconscious mind are by definition unknown to you. If they were known, they'd be...conscious.

Writing-especially private writing, writing you do only for you-is the act of getting thoughts on paper so you can do your work of sifting.

Did you know the word "true" is an archery metaphor, as in let the arrow fly true to the target?

Truth is about orientation. It is about where you're going.

Telling yourself the truth is the same as properly aiming at the highest good.

Lies and falseness are like chains that keep you from becoming who you're meant to become, the grandest version of yourself. The Bible teaches us that the truth sets you free.

The habit of journaling is the practice of telling yourself the truth

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📓Art and Practice of Journaling

2y ago

Physical Journaling Versus Digital Journaling

Which is better?

Here's a list of pros for each to help you decide.

PHYSICAL

  • 100% owned by you: cannot be taken away by a platform (like Apple Notes or Notion) or lost if the company goes under.

  • Completely private: companies cannot peek at your writing, even if they wanted to. Not vulnerability to hacking. This is a big one since your journal is primarily a place for your most private thoughts.

  • Independent of technology: in the event that something happened to the power grid or the digital infrastructure at-large, your journals would be safe.

  • Creativity and personalization: can be drawn upon, so you can make them beautiful. Turn each one into a specific piece of art.

  • Mindfulness and focus: writing by hand slows down the process, so you have more time to formulate and wander around the ideas than you would by typing.

  • Tactile experience: writing by hand tends to be a more enjoyable experience for most people.

  • Memory retention: studies have shown that information written by hand is retained at higher rates.

  • Distraction-less writing: you can put away all technology and focus all your attention on what you're writing rather than being tempted to check notifications or go do something else on your device.

  • Physical archive: a tangible record of your thoughts and experiences that can be handed down to your loved ones.

  • Therapeutic benefits: the physical act of writing has been shown to increase emotional intelligence and alleviate the effects of past trauma.

  • No technical skills required: all you need is a notebook and a pen and the ability to write.

  • Historical significance: physical journals become valuable historical documents over time.

  • No power constraints: since you don't need power for your journal to function, you don't have to worry about the power going out.

DIGITAL

  • Convenience and portability: easy access from various devices makes it easy to journal anywhere.

  • Searchability: easy to search for specific keywords to find specific passages.

  • Backups and cloud storage: making copies of your digital journal is simple.

  • Multimedia integration: you can include pictures and video.

  • Integration with other digital tools.

  • Instant sharing: allows you to include other people on your posts or share to social sites to get feedback on your writing.

  • Voice-to-text: your digital journal can be a secretary to take dictation of your ideas, if you are not into writing or just prefer the spoken word.

  • Automatic time-stamping

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📓Art and Practice of Journaling

2y ago

It All Started With A Dream-The Journaling, That Is

When I was little more than a boy, I had a dream.

I awoke in a bed I knew was mine. After getting my bearings, I looked underneath the bed.

There, piled high, sat notebook stacked upon notebook. More than I could count.

I noticed wrinkles in my hands.

Confused, I moved to the mirror hanging on the wall. An old man stared back.

Something told me to pull the notebooks out.

I picked one at random. The date was ten years in the future. It told the story of how I met my wife.

In disbelief, I grabbed another and opened it.

Three years after that. There I read about the birth of our first child.

I don't know how long I sat in that floor reading.

Could have been hours or days. In that time I read the story of my life in my own words. A story of trials and triumphs, of love and loss, of failure and success.

The scene changed.

I was watching from above now.

The notebooks were piled high on a table. My family crowded around. The mood was heavy...was it sadness?

Yes. Why?

At once, I knew I had died. The mood was grief.

But they were laughing as they read from one of the notebooks.

I watched them for a long time in somber acceptance, longing to console them, to let them know I was okay.

Then I was awake again in my bed. My real bed. And I knew what I had to do.

I went at once to purchase my first journal.

I would not deprive my loved ones of their consolation.

This is how it began.

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2y ago

After Negotiating Hundreds of Real Estate Deals, This is the Most Practical Rule I've Learned
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After negotiating hundreds of real estate deals, this is the most practical rule I've learned:

The strength of your negotiating position is equal to the strength of your alternative.

I call it the Central Negotiating Principle, and it governs all negotiations, from multi-million-dollar business transactions to deciding what to eat for dinner.

Think about it like a tool that tells you how far you can push before losing the deal.

Here's how it works:

Imagine you find the home of your dreams listed for sale. It just hit the market, and after seeing it with your spouse, both of you know this is the house you have to make your home.

But...bad news...there are four other offers.

How strong is your negotiating position?

Very weak. Why? Your alternative is to go back into the market and find another home you love equally as much.

How strong is the seller's negotiating position?

Very strong. Why? They have four alternatives to your offer. In this situation, most listing agents will ask all buyers to bring their "highest and best" offer, which will guarantee that the seller gets the best possible deal.

Now imagine you find the home of your dreams listed for sale. But it has been on the market for a couple of months. No offers.

How strong is your negotiating position?

Very strong. Why? Your alternative is to go back into the market and find another home you love equally as much.

How could your position be strong when it's the same as it was in the prior scenario?

Your position is always determined in relation to the position of the other party.

In the latter scenario, the seller is in a super weak position because their alternative to negotiating with you is to continue sitting on the market. For that reason, you are driving the negotiations.

The Central Negotiating principle determines negotiating dynamics in all situations everywhere.