Becoming a mom thrusts everything beyond survival out the window, including beauty routines and, sadly, personal hygiene.

If you're cringing, you clearly haven't spawned children. It's wild.

Moms tend to put everyone and everything ahead of themselves. It's instinct. Nurture the child, clean the house to prevent death by lego foot injuries, feed the family.

Here are things I haven't thought much about in five years of mothering:

• Makeup

• Hairstyles

• Fashion

I didn't believe my image was important anymore, but I was wrong.

Vanity does not contribute to basic survival, but it becomes empowering when you crawl out of the baby cave.

You'll crumble if you give every piece of yourself away without giving yourself attention, too. A swipe of concealer, a fresh haircut, and a pair of real pants (not leggings) that fit your body can magically transform you into a different person. Someone who is more than "just a mom".

Acting on my desire to feel beautiful enhances my creativity.

Beauty is an art form. There is no one-size-fits-all approach to personal style. You can show the world who you are without saying a word. That's powerful.

Consider who you are internally and how you want the world to see you, and decorate your canvas accordingly.

Loving yourself and embracing creativity is not selfish.

Get that haircut. Wear what makes you feel good. Outwardly be yourself.

It makes you a better parent when you fill the void. Investing in your image increases self-esteem. Your kids will respect that because it benefits them to have a happier mother.