Writing is such a beautiful way of expressing oneself. A kind of music that flows from the brain and fingers, much like playing the piano I shall practice here in public. I hope that inspires you to DO the thing instead of waiting until you are perfect at the thing. I've waited too long...
Conflict and resistance. Not my favorite feelings.
I have learned that when I allow myself to feel them at full force, I know whether I am ignoring something out of fear or if something is actually up.
It would be great if I could tell you I learned this early in life and have been utilizing this skill for years... but I can't.
Honestly, it wasn't until I became a parent and then a biz owner that I learned both the skill and the reward of leaning into resistance.
Having the responsibility of keeping another human safe, sheltered, fed, and ultimately taught to be a good human has been the ultimate test of love, patience, and mental endurance.
Not to mention, he often puts things to the test and that is how this has all come about.
When you have a child confrontation is a regular occurrence. Learning how to navigate that with grace and love and strength. And most importantly, remembering the goal.
It is very hard to maintain all of the above when you have a screeching toddler or an unruly and crying teen. It would be so much easier to just give in and enjoy the quiet and ease of a child who got their way or didn't have to be walked while everyone else was enjoying their meal.
Our own discomforts are much the same... it's so much easier to just ignore that relationship drama or health warning, or business issue and act like everything is ok.
The irony is once I learned that by leaning into resistance, things often turned out even better than I could have imagined, I started getting better at doing it.
Likely I'm still learning it as there are things I do my best to avoid. Alas, a work in progress am I.
Let's lean into resistance together and improve our lives exponentially.